My heart breaks for the families in Manchester. Children? That could have been my daughter. That could have been your son. They are all our kids.
I don’t know how to solve violence like this on a large scale. Calling the people who did this losers doesn’t help. I think down deep people are hurting and feeling lost. Including those who commit these horrible acts. Being lost becomes a blindness to suffering.
I might be naive, but I think we need to make connections to keep people from doing things like this in the future. Connect with those who are hurting. Show them they deserve kindness. That they are deserving of compassion just because they exist. Connect also with your dear ones and teach them how to love so big they can’t keep it in.
I think it starts with looking people in the eye. Saying hello and asking how they are right now. Acknowledging those around you. It’s not turning your back and pretending you don’t see pain and suffering and difference. It’s listening to each other and learning that our differences are what make us interesting. It makes us people. And on a micro-level change can happen. And it can grow.