http://vimeo.com/37839585 I wish this video had been around when I was a teenager, and I noticed that my natural tendency was to be alone and love it. Or all through college when my roommates were going to parties and I offered to come pick them up when they were ready. Or when my coworkers were going out for beers after work and I declined in order to go jump back into my current read at my crappy apartment. Or even in recent years when groups of friends gather and I feel sort of restless and awkward the whole time, wishing I could just build a fire and sit quietly instead.
I come by my introversion naturally. My mom is a classic loner. In fact, she just took a job as a janitor so she could just do her own thing at her own pace. I think that sounds pretty great. I guess being an illustrator has that in common. No one overseeing. Just one person in a room doing a job. I hide behind a computer. My mom hides behind a mop.
But while I know it is my nature is to crave solitude and to feel most alive in a quieter environment... I had never really heard someone say it's OK to be like that. That I shouldn't force myself to be more social. That I can accept this giant part of myself as is. No qualifiers, apologies or shame.
This is permission to be an introvert.
Thank you, Susan Cain.